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This week at MOPS....

Do you let fear call the shots? You are not alone in your fears in motherhood, but a lot of times fear is a perception problem. How can we prevent fear from causing us to sit on the sidelines of life? When you sense fear creeping in, remember that God is with you. God's presence replaces our panic with peace. Run to God during your fears and trust him. Living in fear is exhausting, but God's desire is for you to live is his shadow where you will find lasting rest. Fear is a relentless shadow and will try to infiltrate your mind and heart. How do we combat it when life's valleys seem too deep and dark? Start small. Talk to God about your fears. Go for a walk, journal, sing your heart out, talk to friends, sit quietly and be still with God, ask a mentor to pray with you, and/or find a few bible verses to meditate on throughout the day. If you missed it, you can watch the video here.


Announcements


We know that next Tuesday is Election Day, but we thought everyone could use a mental break from politics and everything else! Bring a chair or a blanket and join us for an outdoor movie & firepit in Katie's Backyard!


We will be ordering pizza and there will be drinks, popcorn, and a sweet treat! Plastic gloves will be available so there is no cross-contamination with the food.


The movie (TBD) will start around 7:15 so we don't have to be out too late!

Please RSVP on the Evite no later than Sunday, November 1st so that we can make sure we have the right amount of goodies!



Our next playdate is coming up at Historic Oak View County Park!


Join us to pick some pecans, feed the goats, and explore the farm buildings! Bring a bag for your pecans, and apples and baby carrots for the goats!


When you arrive, head back behind the buildings to the pecan grove!




Join us at our next 7pm meeting on November 17th! In preparation for the Thanksgiving holiday we will be discussing gratitude. Gratitude is not something that comes naturally, but it leads to greater social, emotional and spiritual health, and leads us to face reality in a way few other things can.


 

GO DEEPER


Facing Fears // Stacey Morgan / yearofstacey.blogspot.com


On the morning of July 20th, 2019, I kissed my husband one last time before watching him don his space suit and step up into the bus that would take him to the launchpad and his waiting Soyuz rocket. Once there, he crawled into the cramped capsule with his two crewmates and they closed the hatch. About a mile away, my children and I waited for the countdown to begin. My heart was pounding out of my chest and had I not had young children to be brave for, I think I would have been tempted to collapse on the ground and bury my face in my hands. I was terrified. What if something goes wrong? What if the rocket explodes? Have I just said goodbye to my husband of 20 years and the father of our four children forever? Even with the years of training and full confidence in the equipment and technology, things happen, mistakes are made. In that moment, I felt like I was standing on the edge of a cliff, my toes dangling off the edge, not knowing if in a few short moments we would be filled with the elation of a successful rocket launch to the International Space Station, or the shocking downward plunge into a new life mourning the loss of my best friend and my children’s father. I’ve never experienced a fear so palpable before. I was overwhelmed.


I reached back in my mind to the day before, when the children and I were granted a few short minutes with Drew for one last hug and tearful farewell. We put our arms around each other and prayed together, asking God for peace and courage, for protection and provision. In that moment, God answered our prayers. Through my tears, I felt his peace, and he granted us the almost incalculable strength it took to say goodbye and walk away.


Back at the viewing area, I told my children to step up next to me and grab hands. We were going to face this, whatever came next, together. Countdown 3-2-1, the engines lit and lifted the rocket off the ground. The fiery blast blinded our eyes as the deafening roar rolled across the ground and washed over us like a wave. In that moment I thought of Esther, who God choose for a specific point in history, to take action in a place full of fear and unpredictability. And while Esther did not know what the outcome would be, her faith in God’s plan gave her the strength to face her fears and move forward.


As we watched the rocket shoot into the night sky, eventually receding into just a pinprick of light as it chased its target, I thanked God for his presence in my life. I asked him to give me the same courage he granted Esther: the confidence to face my fears, in the big and the little things, knowing he will never leave me nor forsake me, no matter what the next day brings.




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MOPS President Mandy Arioto gave us SO MUCH to think about during our last meeting all about Chasing Joy.


In a survey of 5,000 women about the top 20 emotions they feel on a regular basis, Joy came in last 92% of the time. 84% of moms report feeling anxious, lonely, overwhelmed, or insecure. Suicide is the leading cause of maternal deaths in Australia, UK, and Ireland. Let that sink in a moment.


Every stage of parenting has it's unique challenges, but can be full of joy if we choose to find the positives. Joy takes pursuit and practice.


Why does it take so much intentional effort to cultivate joy? Here are some facts about Joy:

  1. You can be suffering and still feel joy.

  2. You may not be able to control your circumstances but you are in control of how to react to them. One year after a life altering experience, newly adapting paraplegics and lottery winners both reported the same level of happiness. Joy is a decision and isn't dependent on external circumstances or what happens to us.

  3. You think joy should come naturally, but it's actually a difficult emotion to experience. Our brain wants to protect us from disappointment and fear so it tries to short circuit our joy by reminding us of worst case scenarios. Acknowledge the fearful thought and get back to appreciating the moment.

  4. God wants you to experience joy. Sometimes we think we don't deserve it or should focus on other's joy, but in the Bible we find lots of times where God fulfills requests for joy.

How can we practice joy in practical ways?

  1. Go out of your way to make normal experiences special.

  2. Make at least one thing better every single place you go.

  3. When you are seeing your family again after time apart, be elated to see them! Your attitude in that moment sets the tone for the rest of the day.

  4. Ask yourself, would I rather be a perfect mom or a joyful mom? We don't remember people for their awesome looks, clothes, or packed lunches.

  5. Make a list of things you appreciate about people who are irritating you. It will help you see them in a different light and change your attitude towards them.

Remember, you are the only one who can give your kids a joyful mom and change the climate in your home. Even though life is hard, it can still be awesome!


GO DEEPER


Joy Cultivates Joy by Bethany Howard


Joy cultivates joy. Bitterness cultivates bitterness.


A bitter mom leads her family to chaos. A joyful mom leads her family to peace.

I want to be rooted in joy and witness peace bloom in my home. I will never be able to do that if my three impressionable kids see me lose my mind when dinner burns to a crisp because I’m preoccupied with looming transitions. It’s unfair to all of us to then hope for peace, when I’m cultivating bitterness. When I mother from a place of bitterness my kids get my impatience, frustration, and anger and that leads to a rough day. When that is multiplied, it leads to a life of chaos.


If I want my kids to be agents of peace, then I have to teach them that joy is what feeds and strengthens me for the work at hand. They don’t know much about the disappointments of life or the startling realities of our world yet, but one day they will. And they will need to know how to respond out of that joy. The only way they’ll learn that is if I do the work to cultivate joy in my own heart.


The pursuit of joy is a discipline. If we don’t see it as a pursuit and a discipline, bitterness creeps in. I make space for joy when I spend time with my creator so that I can silence joy-stealers with truth.


Here’s a few examples of joy-stealers: I don’t have what I need. I am unlovable. I am not capable. Those three pack a punch, don’t they? John 10:10 says, A thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come so that they may have life and have it to the full. Our hearts don’t get sustenance from lies. Truth feeds us and enables our hearts to choose joy.

A joyless existence, or just a meager supply of joy, will fracture my connection with my kids, my spouse, my world and with God. An abundant life, the life that I am called to live, is out of my reach if I don’t cultivate joy. I will miss opportunities to lead in my community and I will not even see all the goodness that lives in my house if joy doesn’t make a way



Upcoming Dates


October 20th @ 9:30am - Playdate

We will have a fun Halloween craft activity for the kids!


October 27th @ 7pm - Regular MOPS Meeting at Crossroads Wake Forest

Are you "afraid of your own shadow"? Fear is just a shadow, but it can overshadow our lives. However, God’s shadow looms larger than our fear. He is with us and will provide rest and protection from fear and worry, if we abide under the shadow of the God who loves us.


November 3rd @ 7pm - Regular MOPS Meeting at Crossroads Wake Forest

Gratitude is not something that comes naturally, but it is a discipline worthy of practice. The practice of gratitude leads us to face reality in a way few other things can, and leads to greater social, emotional and spiritual health.


November 10th @ 9:30am - Playdate

Bring your little one to pick some pecans! Bring baby carrots and apples to feed the goats!




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This week at MOPS....

We heard from licensed professional counselor Toni Greco about building mental stamina. What we think directs our steps. When our focus is on the negative, our world will reflect that. If we keep a balanced perspective, then life begins to feel more manageable and hope grows. Comparison really is the thief of joy.


Here are 5 reminders for maintaining mental strength:

  1. Drop the shoulds, musts, and have tos. They leave you with failure if you don't measure up.

  2. Just like on an airplane, secure your own mask before assisting your child (find what you need to be healthy so you can be there for yourself and your family)

  3. For every negative thought, replace it with a balanced one

  4. Have grace on yourself

  5. Let go of perfection


Toni also offered a great book list if you'd like to read more on the subject.

If you missed the video, you can watch it at https://vimeo.com/393778328




Next Tuesday is the 5th Tuesday of the month, so we get to have another playdate!

Our first October playdate will be held on October 6th.


Login on the website to get all of the details about location and time.





Our group uses Facebook to keep in touch through our private member group and our public Facebook Page. Join and follow both for updates! We also have a private Instagram account if that's more your speed! 


Our new website also has an area where you can register to get special members-only access.  There you will find our calendar of events and a way to submit any prayer requests or praises our leadership team can be praying about! 


This year we are using the Remind app for any last minute notifications about weather cancellations or location changes. Please download the app and signup with our group to receive notifications. 


 

Join us at our next meeting on October 13th! We will learn how to chase joy instead of bitterness, and how to focus on living the abundant life we were called to live.

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